TED | 你在为自己创造着怎样的现实?
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现实不是一种认知,而是内心的一种创造——“借口、假设和恐惧”也是如此。我们创造着现实,并对此深信不疑,到底是怎么一回事呢?
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You see, sight is just one way we shape our reality. We create our own realities in many other ways. Let’s take fear as just one example. Your fears distort your reality. Under the warped logic of fear, anything is better than the uncertain. Fear fills the void at all costs,passing off what you dread for what you know, offering up the worst in place of the ambiguous, substituting assumption for reason. Psychologists have a great term for it: awfulizing.
你看,视觉只是我们认识世界的一种途径。我们可以通过许多其它的方式去创造属于我们自己的现实。让我们来举恐惧作为一个例子。你的恐惧扭曲了你的现实。在扭曲的恐惧逻辑影响下,任何事情都比未知要好。恐惧不惜一切代价填补空白,把你所惧怕的冒充成你所知道的,让最糟糕取代了不明确,使假设代替了原因。心理学家对此有一个很好的术语:往坏处想。
Right? Fear replaces the unknown with the awful. Now, fear is self-realizing. When you face the greatest need to look outside yourself and think critically, fear beats a retreat deep inside your mind, shrinking and distorting your view, drowning your capacity for critical thought with a flood of disruptive emotions. When you face a compelling opportunity to take action, fear lulls you into inaction, enticing you to passively watch its prophecies fulfill themselves.
对吧?恐惧把未知的替换成了可怕的。现在,恐惧在自我实现着。当你非常迫切的需要去客观看待自己并进行批判性思考的时候,恐惧在你的内心深处打起了退堂鼓,收缩并扭曲你的观点,以洪水般涌现的破坏性情绪淹没你批判思考的能力。当你面对一个极具吸引力的机会去采取行动时,恐惧误导你去无所作为,诱使你被动地看着它的预言一个个实现成真。
When I was diagnosed with my blinding disease, I knew blindness would ruin my life. Blindness was a death sentence for my independence. It was the end of achievement for me. Blindness meant I would live an unremarkable life, small and sad, and likely alone. I knew it.This was a fiction born of my fears, but I believed it. It was a lie, but it was my reality, just like those backwards-swimming fish in little Dorothy’s mind. If I had not confronted the reality of my fear, I would have lived it. I am certain of that.
当我被诊出患有致盲眼疾时,我料到失明将会毁了我的生活。失明对我的独立能力判了死刑。它是我一生成就的终点。失明意味着我将度过平凡的一生,渺小且凄惨,极有可能孤独终老。我就知道会这样。这是我因为恐惧带来的胡编乱造,但我相信了。它是一个谎言,但它曾是我的现实。就像小多萝西内心那些倒游的鱼一样。如若我不曾面对过我内心恐惧创造出来的现实,我会就那样活着。我很确定。
So how do you live your life eyes wide open? It is a learned discipline. It can be taught. It can be practiced. I will summarize very briefly.
所以你们如何去以开阔的眼界生活呢?这是一个需要学习的学科。它能被传授。它能被练习。我简单地总结一下。
Hold yourself accountable for every moment,every thought, every detail. See beyond your fears. Recognize your assumptions. Harness your internal strength. Silence your internal critic. Correct your misconceptions about luck and about success. Accept your strengths and your weaknesses, and understand the difference. Open your hearts to your bountiful blessings.
让自己学会负责,对每一时刻,每个想法,每个细节。超越你内心的恐惧。识别出你所作的假设。展现你内在的能力。消除你内心的批判。修正你对于运气和成功的错误概念。接受自己的长处和短处,并清楚认识它们之间的区别。打开你的心扉去迎接对你满满的祝福。
Your fears, your critics, your heroes, your villains - they are your excuses, rationalizations, shortcuts, justifications,your surrender. They are fictions you perceive as reality. Choose to see through them. Choose to let them go. You are the creator of your reality. With that empowerment comes complete responsibility.
你的恐惧,你的批判,你的英雄,你的敌人——他们都是你的借口、合理化作用、捷径、辩护、屈服。它们是你错认为现实的小说。尝试选择看穿它们。尝试让它们远离自己。你是自我现实的创造者。伴随这种权利而来的是你需要负起全部的责任。
I chose to step out of fear’s tunnel in toterrain uncharted and undefined. I chose to build there a blessed life. Far from alone, I share my beautiful life with Dorothy, my beautiful wife, with our triplets, whom we call the Tripskys, and with the latest addition to the family, sweet baby Clementine.
我选择走出恐惧的隧道,步入了未知的领域。我选择在那里构建幸福的人生。远离孤单,我分享我的美好生活,与多萝西,我美丽的妻子,与我们的三胞胎,我们称之为“Tripskys”,还有新添的家庭成员,可爱的宝贝克莱蒙蒂。
What do you fear? What lies do you tell yourself? How do you embellish your truth and write your own fictions? What reality are you creating for yourself?
你在害怕什么?你在欺骗自己什么?你是如何修饰自己的真相,编写自己的小说?你在为自己创造着怎么样的现实?
In your career and personal life, in your relationships, and in your heart and soul, your backwards-swimming fish do you great harm. They exact a toll in missed opportunities and unrealized potential,and they engender insecurity and distrust where you seek fulfillment and connection. I urge you to search them out.
在你的职业生涯和个人生活中,在你的人际关系中,在你的内心和灵魂中,倒游的鱼给你带来巨大的伤害。它们使你为错失的机会以及尚未实现的潜能付出代价。它们在你寻求满足与联系时引起你的不安以及不信任。我呼吁大家把它们找出来。