美文 | 态度决定生活
相信你身边肯定会有这一类人，过着或成功或舒适的生活，似乎生活工作中都没有太多的困难和障碍。其实他们的生活不一定时时顺利，但他们对待事情的态度总是积极的，这是过上更好的生活的关键。
"Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us." We've all heard about the power of our attitude, and that it's our attitude that determines how much we succeed in life.
“我们对生活的态度决定了生活对我们的态度。” 我们都听说过态度的力量，也知道正是我们的态度决定了我们在生命中会有多成功。
If you look around you, you will see that people with a positive attitude enjoy life more and are generally happier and more successful than those who walk around grumpy and pessimistic. Our attitude is the driving force in our lives - it can either push you to do great things or pull you down to your demise.
如果你看看周围，你就会发现那些以积极的态度享受生活的人们，比那些暴躁和悲观的人更开心而且更成功。我们的态度是我们生命中的动力——它可以推动你做伟大的事情，也会把你带向灭亡。
While it's true that humans are born with certain tendencies or orientations, our personalities and attitudes are developed through our relationships and experiences. Our attitudes begin to develop in childhood and constantly evolve and change over the years through day-to-day interactions and experiences.
然而，人类天生就有某些发展趋势或方向，我们的个性和态度会随着我们的人际关系和经历而不断成熟。我们的看法从孩提时代开始，并多年来在每天的交往和经历中不断地发展和改变。
All the things that you have been through, all the people you have met and interacted with can have an impact on your attitude. If you think that all these factors have molded you into a person with a poor attitude towards life, there is no need to worry as there is always an opportunity for change. Let me share with you how I did it.
你所经历的所有事情、所见过并打交道的所有的人会影响你的态度。如果你认为这些所有的因素都让你对生活有了消极态度，不要担心，总有机会改变的。让我与你分享一下我的做法。
1. Identify and understand what you want to change.
确定并了解你想要改变的事。
The first step towards change is clearly understanding what needs to be changed. Setting clear goals is the key to success in any endeavor. When it comes to changing your attitude, you need to do an honest and in-depth self-evaluation so you could point out exactly which of your traits need to be improved or totally changed.
改变的第一步是清楚了解什么需要改变。设立明确的目标是所有努力的关键。当需要改变态度时，你需要做坦率和深入的个人评估，这样才能确切的指出你需要改进或彻底改变的特质。
2. Look for a role model.
寻找一个榜样角色。
We all need to know that what we're trying to accomplish can in fact be achieved; that we can be more optimistic, more social or more patient. Find someone who has the kind of attitude that you want to have, and let his or her life give you inspiration and encouragement to move beyond your temporary failures in your journey towards becoming a better person.
我们都需要知道我们事实上试着完成的是什么;这样我们就能更乐观、更爱社交也更有耐心。找到一个有你想要的态度的人，并让他/她的生活给你激发和鼓励，来打败你在变得更好的途中暂时的失败。
3. Think about how your attitude change will affect your life.
想想你的态度改变后将如何影响你的生活。
To be able to hurtle through all the difficulties that lie ahead of you in your journey towards self betterment, you need to figure out exactly what this supposed change could bring to your life. Will changing your attitude mean a happier family or social life? Will a change in your attitude mean a more successful career or business? Fix your mind on the things that would come as a result of your attitude change and you will have a greater chance of reaching your goal.
在你想要变得更好的旅程中，想要度过所有的困难，你必须正确认识这些改变会对你的生活带来什么。改变你的态度是否意味着更幸福的家庭或社交生活?态度的改变是否意味着事业或生意的更成功?将注意力集中于能让你的态度带来改变的事上，你会有更多的机会达成你的目标。
4. Choose the right company.
选择正确的同伴。
As they say, “Bad company corrupts good character.” You don't expect yourself to be able to change if you go on surrounding yourself with people who possess all the negative traits that you want to change. Consider befriending new people, especially those who are optimistic and have a healthy attitude towards life. You will see that your effort to change will be easier with these kinds of people as friends.
正如他们所说，“坏伙伴吞噬好习惯”。如果你周围仍都是性格不好的人，你不要指望自己能改变。考虑交新朋友，特别是那些乐观的、有积极生活态度的朋友。你会发现和这些类型的朋友在一起，为改变所做出的努力会更小。
5. Believe that you are able to change.
相信自己可以改变。
Often, the greatest obstacle between us and our goals is ourselves or our inability to trust in what we are able to do. If you don't believe in yourself or believe that you or your life can change, it just won't happen - you will either never start, or give up quickly so you won't have even given yourself the opportunity to succeed.
通常，我们与目标之间最大的障碍是我们自己，或者是认为自己没有能力改变。如果你不相信自己或者自己的生活能够改变，改变就不会发生——你将永远不会开始，或者会很快结束，因此你将不会给自己成功的机会。
It cannot be denied that a positive attitude is very important for living a successful and satisfying life, so it is only right to strive to have a positive attitude. I have struggled with reforming my negative attitude as well, but over the years, through persistence and self evaluation, I have managed to change for the better. You can too!
不可否认，积极的生活对于成功或舒适的生活非常重要，因此需要努力有个积极的生活态度。我也与消极的生活态度斗争了很久，但多年来，通过坚持和自我评价，我已经努力变得更好。你也可以！
